Yu currently lives in dormitory-style accommodation and says she doesn’t feel the need to download the app just yet, but can see its appeal in the future.
A man cuts a solitary figure at the Canal Business District in east Beijing’s Tongzhou district.Credit: Sanghee Liu
“When my parents become old and my friends get married, but my choice is not to get married and I don’t have a stable partner, I may feel such panic and anxiety at that time,” she says.
With China’s domestic economy in the doldrums, many young people have flocked to big cities like Beijing, Shanghai and Shenzhen to chase better paying jobs, only to struggle to get ahead, leaving them more likely to shun the idea of having children, experts say.
At the same time, the number of China’s single-person households is growing, with Chinese firm Beike Research Institute, estimating the number of young people aged 20-39 living alone is expected to increase from 18 million in 2010 to 40-70 million in 2030.
Another factor is China’s one-child policy. Though officially abandoned in 2016, its legacy for some Chinese people has been a transition from only child to lonely adult.
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“People are reluctant to socialise, reluctant to marry and have children,” said Dr Fuxian Yi, a demographer at University of Wisconsin-Madison and critic of the one-child policy.
It comes as the country faces a demographic crunch of an ageing population combined with declining marriages and births. In figures released on Monday by the National Bureau of Statistics, China’s population shrank for the fourth consecutive year in 2025, declining by 3.39 million to hit 1.405 billion, while its birthrate fell to its lowest level since the founding of the People’s Republic in 1949.
On Douban, a Chinese social media site similar to Reddit, discussions about loneliness and death has flourished as Are You Dead? has gone viral.
“I often even worry that in my current situation, where I have no partner and my relationship with friends is not very close, if my parents get old, once they get sick, there may not even be anyone to accompany me to the hospital,” wrote one user, who identified herself as a 32-year-old woman and an only child living in Beijing.
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Another user wrote: “Some people also say that ‘Are You Dead?’ sounds inappropriate and should be changed to ‘Are You Alive?’ It just goes to show that avoiding mentioning death is still a major theme in our society.”
The surging popularity of the app has taken even the developers surprise.
In a statement released on January 11 on social networking site Weibo, they described themselves as a “small, unknown team, founded and independently operated by three people born in the ’90s”.
